Ahhh… something brought you here! You are seen!
Do you find yourself giving your ALL to all of the "things" and "people", only to feel depleted, unfulfilled, and even BEHIND, as YOU and YOUR things never seem to make the priority list? Are you possibly unsure of what “your things” would be if you were given 10 extra hours per day to pursue them? Perhaps, you actually do have some of what YOU want on YOUR priority list, but this makes you feel guilty and selfish?
If you agree with any of the above, odds are you've had moments of sadness, anxiety, exhaustion, loneliness, feeling stuck, heartbreak, confusion, resentment and even struggling relationships.
Yes, it’s all connected!
Personal Space
It may be hard to say aloud, but if you feel validated, intrigued or even put off by any of the above, learning to put a bit more self at the center of your Personal Space may be just the thing that gets you feeling better!
Personal Space: one’s immediate physical, emotional, spiritual and mental surroundings and resources.
Perhaps it’s time to climb out from under all the things in the way of living a life that is unapologetically centered on a free and authentic self!
All of this may be new to you or even feel like it is no longer a choice not to begin giving more to yourself. It’s okay! You are here because it’s time!
You've spent a lifetime being there for everyone.
Who has been there for you?
You give, manage, hold space, and show up — and then you do it again. This work is about turning that same devotion inward and learning what it actually means to be at the center of your own life. Does any of this sound familiar?
You know your roles — but you've lost track of who you actually are.
There is a version of you that exists beyond the titles and the expectations. We find her together.
You can read every room — except the one inside yourself.
Learning to listen to yourself the way you listen to everyone else is a skill. One you deserve to develop.
You are your own harshest critic — and you're exhausted by the verdict.
You can learn to see yourself clearly without the punishment.
Your name is last on every list — if it makes the list at all.
You were never taught to advocate for yourself the way you advocate for others. That changes here.
You wait for permission to invest in yourself — and it never comes.
Rest, desire, growth — you don't need anyone's approval to decide you're worth it.
"If you would just..." has become a sentence you finish a lot.
The pleading, the negotiating, the "you make me feel" — that's not a relationship problem. That's an ownership problem.
You carry people who are capable of carrying themselves.
You can love people deeply and still let them be responsible for themselves.
What becomes possible …
Imagine every person in your life — your children, your partner, your mother, your colleagues — tending to themselves the way you tend to everyone else. Everyone grounded. Everyone whole. No one waiting to be rescued. That's not a fantasy. That's what happens when you stop disappearing and start centering in yourself.
Self-centered - Being the center of your own world.
Tending to your needs, your life, your well-being. This is the goal — and it's not what you've been taught to believe it is.
Selfish - Expecting to be the center of someone else's world.
Demanding. Taking. This is what we've been wrongly warned against — and it is not the same thing.
When everyone centers in self, everyone wins.
How Personal Space:
Self-Centering Therapy Can Help
Let’s get you self-centered!
With individual, couple or family therapy sessions and NO JUDGMENT, clients can work to identify the life THEY desire and create a relationship with themselves that will make that life attainable.
From one Busy Black Woman to another - it’s time to make things happen (per usual), without sacrificing ourselves!
Intergenerational systemic theories, mindfulness techniques and awareness of culture, power and privilege are used to help clients enhance their lives and protect their peace, from the inside-out.